Letter to Happiness 幸福信

From my years as a world traveler I learned, people are lonely everywhere.

We are all deceived by our own imagination. You see, the truth is everyone is an individual. We are all one. There’s only one of me in this world and there is only one of you. There is no one in this world that is constantly surrounded by perfectly loving friends, understanding families, ideal job opportunities and happiness divine.              

You have in your mind an image: That popular kid in class, who is smart and really kind. She’s always surrounded by people who love her. Everyone wants to be her friend. Her life is perfect and she would never feel alone.

That’s a great image. Take it, put it in the box labeled Hollywood Fiction and move on. Life is tough. Her life has difficulties like you. Just because you don’t see it, doesn't mean they’re not there. Part of understanding that you’re not completely alone is coming face to face with the fact that no one is completely not alone.

It’s okay to be by yourself. It’s okay to enjoy an afternoon or ten at home. It’s normal to have time when you feel like you’re dying and can’t reach out to anyone. Trials are part of life. Everyone has them. Your life is not sadder, more pitiful or miserable than your neighbor’s unless you believe it so – unless you make it so.

There are days however, when you feel the weight of the life on your shoulders; when your defenses are down and you are being pulled into a never-ending cycle of misery. I get it. I've seen those days. Sometimes, I just lock myself up in a room and cry until I run out of energy. It’s okay. In life, that happens too.

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在世界中流浪了這麼多年，我學到到處的人們都很寂寞。

我們都被自己的想像力蒙騙了，事實上，我們每個人都是「個體」，都是一個的。這世界上只有一個我，也只有一個你。沒有人是天生就整天都一直有完美的朋友、體貼的家人、理想的工作和快樂的生活。

你的腦海中，或許有個影像：像班上的那個有人氣的女生，她很聰明，人很好，大家都很喜歡她，而她身邊總是有很多的朋友。大家都想要跟她做朋友。她有個完美無瑕的人生，她絕對不會感到孤單的。

那是個很棒的想像，請把它拿起來，放到一個叫做「好萊屋假象」的盒子，然後繼續吧。生命是困難的，那個女孩的生命中有也苦難，跟妳一樣，妳看不到並不代表沒有。每個人都有。能夠了解妳不是寂寞一人之前，妳需要了解到，沒有人是完全不孤獨的。

有時候，自己一個人也沒有關係，花一個(或十個)下午自己在家也很好。有時候，感覺妳已經走到極限，受不了的痛苦卻不能伸手請人幫忙，這也是正常的。苦難是生命的一部份，每個人都有的。妳的生活不比其他人的苦、可憐、悲慘 ─ 除非妳選擇這麼相信，除非妳把它變成那樣。

然而，的確有時候，妳感受到生命的重量在妳的肩膀上。妳的圍牆倒了，而妳被拉進一個無止盡的黑洞裡。我懂，我也看過那種日子。有時候，我也會把自己關在房間裡，豪豪大哭到沒有力氣。沒關係，那也是生命的一部份。

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